Dating in your 30′s?
I love it.
Though there are expectations for everything, we’ve all been out of college for quite a while. We’ve gone through those first few jobs taken just to pad a resume and gain experience, consider our employment a “career” and not “just a job,” and are financially in a better place (well…at the very least I can now afford Barilla pasta with Prego instead of straight up Ramen).
Some of us have been serial dating for years, some have broken engagements, some are divorced. We’ve learned what we’re looking for and we’re clear about our intentions. Guys reach out to plan great dates, let you know they’re looking forward to seeing you, and plan follow-up dates immediately. There’s no “three-day rule” in this age group, sad girls in your 20′s.
But online dating in your 30′s? In a big city?
It’s frigging awesome.
More people to choose from, more things, to do, more adventures. Between the different neighborhoods, restaurants, coffee shops, Broadway shows, dinner places and museums there’s an endless selection of culture and fun. I’ve met some really great guys on eHarmony.
But let’s be honest. You don’t want to hear about the nice guys.
You want to hear about the train wrecks.
To start off, there was the “Perfect Week Guy.” Thankfully, he remains the only one of my dates to brag about his sexual conquests over beers and appetizers. And yet was somehow was surprised when I wouldn’t go back to his apartment with him to watch How I Met Your Mother.
Another guy that I was seeing for a few dates asked me out on a Friday night. When I showed up, I found out I was at an event…for singles. Left to my own devices for the evening (he explained he’s very social and therefore was going to be working the crowd much of the night), I thankfully managed to have a lot of fun and make some new friends. And then decided we should probably just be friends…
Another guy I had been on a few dates with invited me over to his neighborhood for dinner. Excited to try Moroccan food for the first time, I gladly headed his way. We walked over to the BYOB establishment, bottle of wine in hand…and didn’t even get to make it past the hostess stand. There was a sign on the door stating they only take cash. And he just got back from a bachelor party weekend. And spent all his cash at the strip clubs. And then proceeded to tell me about the lap dance he bought for himself and how much it cost while talking with his mouth completely full of food that was spraying everywhere while we were at our second choice restaurant (that place took credit cards).
And then tonight I got an email from someone I’ve been communicating with for a few weeks. Responding to my asking about his weekend, he informed me he had an amazing time with an out-of-state girl he met on eHarmony. She came to the city and they had a great weekend long date. He then asked my number so we could move forward with texting and calling before going out on a date of our own.
So far…no absolute horror stories, some really great dates, and some pretty laughable situations.
It’s going to be a great summer.